THANKFUL!

I can not begin to tell you how thankful I am for all that God has done for me.  It is amazing what can occur and transpire throughout the course of a year.  This year has proved to be very challenging for me but I thank God for it all.  Last year this time I had gotten my first chemotherapy treatment for a cancerous tumor that was removed from my breast.  I remember feeling so alone and depressed.  There is nothing worse than feeling alone when you are surrounded by people who love you.  Well, that is that place that I was at....... BROKE!!!  Broke both spiritually and financially, BUT GOD!!  In the midst of me receiving all of these different medications to assure that I was Cancer free, I acquired a condition that affects my eyes, called Uvetis.  It was literally as if trouble was all around me.  I felt like I was in a tunnel and the lights were off............. their was no end in sight.  When I was physically alone, I cried like and baby but when others were around I kept quiet and smiled.  For a long time and even now there are a number of people who had no idea what I was going through.  I am such a strong person and that is what people see me as, and I refused to be anything less.  I was afraid of all the press that my illness would get from people in the street and more than that, of those who would speak death instead of life.  I am a firm believer that you can't share your life with everyone because their are negative people who's mind frame is just as damaging as a gun.


I thank God for His word and the vessels that he uses and for my ability to receive.  I remember one day I was in my room crying and my son came in.  He looked at me and said, "mama please don't die, me and Daja need you to raise us".  He made me realize that I needed to fight and that I had to.  After me and Zay finished talking, I got up and took a bath and during that bath I cried and I prayed.  I asked God to clean me!! To wash away all of that doubt!!  Then I promised God that I would be a better person if it was His will that I live through this situation.  I begin to change my attitude and be more positive from that day forward.  Now I am not going to lie and say that my life changed over night but I begin to feel better.  I felt better because I begin to appreciate the people around me, who loved me.  I begin to see all the things I had to be happy for.  I could identify with the fact my situation could be worse........  When I tell you that a positive attitude is just as important to your health as medication, YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT!!!  


Now during the course of this year, I have found so much to be thankful for; my God, my family, my friends, healing, happiness but most of all..........THIS JOURNEY!  This Journey has changed my life in ways that I never imagined.  I have become a greater woman all because of it.  I have learned to trust God.  I learned that you have to be open to receiving the love that people have for you.  I learned the value of my smile and that it is tied to the happiness of those who love me.  I learned not be consumed by pity, things and people.  All things that I have known for a while but along the way, I lost track of them.  This journey made me get back to the me that God always intended for me to be.  It has taught me that my trials are not just mine and to share them with others because I might be that vessel that God uses for some one else.  My testimony is filled with pain, not just the pain of this particular chapter of my life but many, many more.  And if I have to go through the hardship of reliving them all to help someone else, I will.  I know that all of the things I have encountered have been a set up so that I could do God's work.  So that I could help young girls and women that are in similar situations come out victorious.  So I say to you.................  TRUST GOD, BE THANKFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE, WHO YOU ARE AND REMEMBER..............  ALL THINGS WORK FOR THE GOOD OF THOSE WHO LOVE GOD!!!!

YOU ROCK!!

I have been sitting on this blog for a while for personal reasons, but I am officially ready to unleash.  I know that many people do a lot of bandwagon jumping when different events take place, and I did not want to be one of those people.  However, I have such a strong message attached to the movement.  Now that some of the hype has died down....I am ready to break my silence.  Well let me start by saying that the entire Black Girls Rock movement is great!!!  I think that it is important to continuously applaud and encourage the efforts of our young girls.  However there are so many others who ROCK and who need the same push.  People need to learn to love themselves and identify with what makes them ROCK.  I say it all the time, God created us all with purpose, with that purpose and hard work, we can all ROCK .  I know that all of us aren't bold and out going.  Some of us need that extra push or encouragement, and some are halted by fear.  These things are the reasons I am writing this blog.  


I just think that the Black Girls Rock! movement is amazing and very needed.  Our youth need to know how important and appreciated they are.  Honestly, I think that this holds true for so many people, not just black girls.     White girlS, Black boys, White boys, Men and Women of all races, ages and sizes.  We all need to be encouraged and made to feel important at some point.  There are a lot of people who work hard to make others smile, to make sure that things go and happen the way that they should and all they want is a pat on the back.  Although we all should be aware of our gifts and abilities, some people need to be reminded that they ROCK!!!


Let me tell you, God created us all with purpose and we have been given gift(s).  However, it is up to you to use what you are given.  You may not always have a fan club or cheerleaders, it is up to you to know that you ROCK!!  In order for you to know that you ROCK, you have to identify with why you ROCK!!!  Your positive attitude, your loving nature, your beauty, your compassion for others, all of these things and many others are why you ROCK!!!  What it is important to know is that your situation nor your circumstances make you and they can't break you unless you allow them to.  Many of you know exactly why you ROCK but you allow fear to paralyze you.  As long as you step into the waters, the fear of drowning no longer controls you no matter what happens from that point on.  The devil and all the naysayers want you to let fear control you.  They want you to believe that you don't ROCK.  They want you to give up on God's promise, but you got to keep it moving!!!


YOU ROCK!!!  AND I CAN'T STRESS IT ENOUGH!!  TAP INTO YOU GREATNESS AND MAKE YOUR MEANINGFUL IMPACT ON THE WORLD......................  WE ARE WAITING!!! AND IF NO ONE ELSE TELLS YOU.........................YOU ROCK!!!!!

P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY

WELL, WELL, WELL..............  IT IS P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY YET AGAIN.  I hope that everyone is in great spirits, especially since it's the weekend!!!!!!  I hope that everyone has great plans for themselves, I sure do!!!!  Remember what I always tell you, do something nice for yourself, something that will make you smile.  As women, so many time we focus on everyone but ourselves, so please allow yourself the pleasure of spending time with you.  


On another note I am trying to start a movement for all my P.H.A.T GIRLS, and it wouldn't be a movement unless we all took part in it!!!  I am looking to partner up with my BIG BOLD BEAUTY'S that are not ashamed of who you are.  We need to let the world know that P.H.A.T GIRLS ROCK!!!!  I want to reach and empower as many of you as I can and I want you to inspire me as well.  Any person who can't learn from another is lost!!!  We have to learn to promote a happy healthy life and to love ourselves as much as we love others. I am a firm believer that there is power in numbers, so lets do this.  


I have recently started working on a t-shirt line for all my P.H.A.T GIRLS, and I know that you are going to love it!!!  I have one shirt that I am selling through a online site called  Cafe Press, and it is selling like crack!!!!!  I would love for you to show your pride and support by purchasing and wearing the shirt.  It is time for us to be just as bold, fashion forward and proud of who we are as every other woman.  The price is a little more than I would like to sell them for but you know how that goes (rolling my eyes with my lips tooted).  However, I am praying that in the next couple of weeks God will bless me with the equipment I need to print and distribute them myself.  I have big things in store and I am taking you ladies with me!!!  I am going to have a photo shoot with real women so some of you will be getting emails from me as well as information about a launch party.  Get with your home girls and other P.H.A.T GIRLS and create a squad, leggo!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://www.cafepress.com/bigmamasboutique/8184698

OWN IT!!! (READ AT YOUR OWN RISK)

Well, life has hindered me from reaching out to you like I have wanted to, but I have so much to say!!!  I am sure that for the next couple of weeks you will be hearing a lot from me, because I have plenty that I plan to share.  Well there is something that bothers me about some people, that is their inability to identify with themselves.  It drives me crazy, and it make me sad for them.  How is it realistic for someone to lose sight of who they are and the things that they do?  I just don't get it!!!  No matter what you are, or what you do, you have to OWN IT!!!  If you don't like whatever it is, change it(if you can) or learn to live with it.  If you don't OWN IT, than it will own you and people will forever use it to hurt you.  

What a fool I would be if I got mad every time someone called me fat or implied that I was fat, knowing that I am.  I know that I am fat, hell I am the person that buy all my plus sized clothes, I look at myself in the mirror several times a day. So who cares how many times someone else says I am fat, It doesn't effect me and especially not in a negative way.  However, this would break some people down.  Now I know plenty of people who allow their reality to hurt them and I just don't get it.  The fact is the body is just a place of residency for the true person that you are.  Nothing that the world sees is you, it is just a shell.  I have heard people say a million times, "girl you got a pretty face", which I do identify with the fact that I have physical beauty.  But even if I were ugly as hell, I would still be just as great.  Now don't get me wrong, I love being ALL DOLLED UP (shameless plug.......lol) but when I am not, I am still just as beautiful.  I am not saying the package isn't an important part of life, because it is.  Your physical presentation is the first thing anyone sees and that is what they judge you according to initially.  So take care of yourself, make sure you look good but work on what is most important;  the beautiful you that lives within and if it is apart of you...... OWN IT!!!!


     I have a friend who is very promiscuous but if someone implies or states that she is, she get  hotter than a tea kettle.  This has been going on for years and for years it has puzzled me.  I mean come on, you have sex with three or four guys a month.  I think that it is safe to say, you are loose!!!  You are doing this by choice not force so you may as well OWN IT!!!  Unless of course you decide to stop............ I mean who the hell cares, if that is what you choose to do.  Just know that you are the reason that the label has been placed on you, so OWN IT!!!

What I am really trying to stress is that, you are who your are in spite of how good or bad it is and unless you have the ability to change it, you might as well OWN IT!!!  No matter what you do in this life, people are going to have something to say that doesn't agree with you and what you are doing, that is just one of the facts of life.  Fat, ugly, smart, pretty................. your physical presence is not who you are.  We are all like gifts, the wrap may be pretty and it may be ugly but either way, the good stuff should be inside.

P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY!!!!!!!!!

ALRIGHT , ALRIGHT, ALRIIIGHT(in my Kevin Hart's daddy voice)!!!!!!!!!!  It is another P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY!!!!!  SO GET CRUNK WIT IT, GET LOOSE WIT IT......... BUT PLEASE DON'T LET BRUCE BRUCE HIT IT!!!  I KNOW THAT THE WEEK HAS BEEN HECTIC AS USUAL, BUT YOU MADE IT WITH YOUR  BEAUTIFUL SELVES.  AND YOU KNOW THAT IT IS TIME TO UNWIND, KICK BACK AND ENJOY.  I KNOW THAT YOU HAVE KIDS, FAMILY AND FRIENDS THAT REQUIRE YOUR ATTENTION BUT TAKE A LITTLE TIME FOR YOU.  IF YOU AREN'T HAPPY AND ON TOP OF YOUR GAME, YOU ARE NO GOOD FOR ANYONE ELSE.  OR AS I LIKE TO SAY, "IF MAMA AINT HAPPY, AINT NOBODY HAPPY".  THE FIRST LAW OF NATURE IS SELF AND IT IS ALRIGHT TO BE SELFISH SOME TIMES.  IT MAY NOT BE ANYTHING MAJOR, BUT DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF, SOMETHING THAT BRINGS YOU HAPPINESS.

CHILD LET ME TELL, I LEARNED A LONG TIME AGO TO CELEBRATE ME!!!  IF I DON'T LOVE ME.... NOBODY ELSE WILL.  YOU GOT TO TREAT YOURSELF OR YOU WILL CHEAT YOURSELF, AND YOU CAN QUOTE ME ON THAT ONE.  THE WAY YOU TREAT YOURSELF, IS THE WAY THAT OTHERS WILL TREAT YOU.  IF A MAN KNOWS THAT YOU ARE HIGH MAINTENANCE AND YOU SPOIL YOURSELF, HE WILL FEEL COMPELLED TO DO THE SAME.  NO FOOL BRINGS WHITE ZINFANDEL TO A CRISTAL PARTY.  I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT MONETARY ONLY, I AM TALKING ABOUT TIME, BACK RUBS, FOOT MESSAGES, BUBBLE BATHS AND SO ON. 

SO LADIES PLEASE, WHAT EVER YOU DO OR DON'T DO, MAKE SURE YOU STEAL A PERSONAL MOMENT FOR YOURSELF.  SPORT THAT PRETTY LITTLE SMILE THAT THE WORLD NEEDS TO SEE.  AND BE BLESSED BEYOND MEASURE!!!

WHO ARE YOU

It took me a long time to come to terms with the person that I am.  I thought that so many irrelevant things defined who I was, things like clothing, other materialistic goods and even other people.  I was so wrapped up in what others thought until I privately begin to embrace the person that people said I was. I was wasting so much time embracing a person that didn't exist instead of loving who this body housed.  In the midst of all this, I learned something very valuable, there is a big difference between embracing something and loving it.  When you embrace something, you take hold of it.  You hold it close to you, for whatever reason but that doesn't mean you love it.  Now when you love something, you have profound feelings for it, you have the strongest form of affection for it.  You can embrace something and not love it, with ease but it is hard to love without embracing it.   When I was embracing the person others said I was, I was not at all loving the true me.  It took me going through life trials to begin to truly love and embrace the real me.  I literally looked in the mirror one day and asked myself, "WHO ARE YOU".  I then made a list of all of the characteristics that I possessed and begin to exhibit those things.  Yes I was talked, laughed at and lied on, hell I still am.  However, now that I know who I am............. I could care less!!!

So I ask you my full figured diva's, who are you?  Are you that fat insecure chick that is willing to settle?  Are you less of a woman because you have more to love?  Are you just a waste of a pretty face?  Are you some lazy heifer sitting around letting the world pass you by?  WHO ARE YOU?  I will tell you who you are, you are that person that lives within you.  That smart, intelligent, fun loving, kind, important person.  You are not those wide hips, big boobs and butt, but you should love them because they are a part of you.  Never allow others to define who you are because they are probably defining what they see instead of who you are.  Do you know how many people seem to be one thing but are really something totally different? I will tell, millions!!!   Looks are deceiving, so let your actions define you.  

GREAT FIND!!!

LADIES, I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU BUT I LIVE FOR A GOOD COMFORTABLE GIRDLE.  WELL, EARLIER THIS WEEK, WHILE SHOPPING AT TARGET, I FOUND ONE THAT I AM VERY PLEASED WITH.  IT IS A HIGH WAIST SLIMMER BY BARELY THERE.  I DON'T KNOW HOW LONG THEY HAVE BEEN CARRYING THEM BUT THEY ARE A BIG MAMA'S BUT FRIEND!!  THEY ARE EXTREMELY COMFORTABLE AND THEY ARE VERY SMOOTH.  THE ONLY CATCH IS THAT THEY HAVE TO GO DOWN A SIZE TO GET VERY GOOD CONTROL.  THIS MEANS IF YOU WEAR A 2X, YOU MAY WANT TO PURCHASE A 1X OR EVEN A LARGE.  HOWEVER WITH THE MAXIMUM PRICE BEING ONLY $14.99, YOU CAN TAKE A LITTLE BIT OF A CHANCE.


http://www.target.com/p/Beyond-Bare-By-Barely-There-Seamless-Smoothing-Brief-Assorted-Colors/-/A-12260013



*THE ONE THAT IS DISPLAYED ON THE LINK IS NOT THE ON THAT I PURCHASED, THE ONE I PURCHASED ISN'T SHOWN.  I ONE THAT I AM SPEAKING OF COMES ALL THE WAY UP TO THE BREAST.

BIG-MAMA: P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY

BIG-MAMA: P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY: WELL LADIES, AS IT WILL BE EVERY FRIDAY....... TODAY IS P.H.A.T(PRETTY HOT AND TEMPTING) FRIDAY!!! NO SAD OR BAD NEWS. NO DEEP THOUGHT PRO...

P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY

WELL LADIES, AS IT WILL BE EVERY FRIDAY....... TODAY IS P.H.A.T(PRETTY HOT AND TEMPTING) FRIDAY!!!  NO SAD OR BAD NEWS.  NO DEEP THOUGHT PROVOKING TOPIC AND MOST OF ALL NO TEARJERKERS!!!  JUST HAPPINESS AND ENCOURAGING WORDS!!!!!!  


ON THIS P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY, I ENCOURAGE YOU ALL TO CELEBRATE YOU IN ALL OF YOUR SPLENDOR. CELEBRATE WHATEVER IT IS THAT MAKES YOU THE AMAZING PERSON YOU KNOW YOU ARE.  DO SOMETHING IN HONOR OF WHO YOU ARE, SOMETHING THAT BRINGS YOU JOY.  THERE IS A TIME FOR SELFISHNESS, DURING THAT TIME IT SHOULD BE ALL ABOUT YOU.  YOUR HAPPINESS IS REQUIRED, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE LOVED ONES WHO DEPEND ON YOU.  HAPPIER YOU ARE, THE MORE YOUR BEAUTY RADIATES.  I WANT YOU TO ALL KNOW THAT YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO BE AS BEAUTIFUL AS YOU DESIRE.  OUR TRUE BEAUTY HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH OUR PHYSICAL FEATURES BUT WHAT IS EMBEDDED IN US THAT RADIATES OUTWARD.  OUR TRUE BEAUTY IS REALLY WHAT DEFINES US AND ALLOW THE WORLD THE PLEASURE OF KNOWING WHO WE TRULY ARE.

WELCOME

HELLO TO ALL OF YOU.  I AM VERY EXCITED ABOUT THIS BLOG, BECAUSE IT IS NEAR AND DEAR TO MY HEART.  THIS IS A PLACE OF COMFORT, ENCOURAGEMENT AND HAPPINESS FOR ALL MY PLUS SIZED SISTERS/DIVA'S.  THE GOAL IS TO TOUCH ON ANY SUBJECTS THAT YOU DEEM NECESSARY.  I WILL BE PROVIDING YOU WITH MY EMAIL ADDRESS SO THAT YOU ARE ABLE TO CONTACT ME ON A MORE PERSONAL AND PRIVATE LEVEL.  I AM VERY BOLD, OUTSPOKEN AND HONEST BUT I KNOW THAT EVERY WOMEN IS NOT LIKE THAT, SO IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO TALK TO ME ABOUT SOMETHING AND TO WRITE ABOUT IT PRIVATELY, I WILL DO SO.  I REALLY WANT AS MUCH FEED BACK AS I CAN, SO PLEASE COMMENT!!!   I LOVE BEING A WOMAN, AND I ESPECIALLY LOVE BEING A PLUS SIZED WOMAN, BECAUSE IT REQUIRES EXTRA OF EVERYTHING!!!!  I WANT OTHER WOMEN LIKE ME TO KNOW THAT WE HAVE THE SAME BEAUTY AS ANY OTHER WOMAN AND ARE JUST AS VALUABLE.  


I WILL ALSO BE GIVING BEAUTY TIPS, SPOTLIGHTING COMPANIES AND SERVICES.  HOWEVER, ANY AND EVERYTHING WILL BE USED FOR THE UP BUILDING OF YOU.  NEVER FEEL AFRAID OR SHY ABOUT ADDRESSING ANY ISSUE, THAT IS WHAT WE ARE HERE FOR....................BIGMAMACLOTHING@GMAIL.COM