WEIGHT WARS.... to be curvy or not!!

My question to my curvy cuties is how happy are you with who your are?  Are you happy with your curves or are you preparing to transition into that skinny chick?  What is your view on women like Monique, Star Jones and Rickey Lake;  who traded their curves for a much slimmer frame?    Do you believe that there is a such thing as losing too much weight?  When you diet and exercise do you pay attention to the changes that happen to you other than your waist getting smaller?  I know that I have dieted several times and I am still changing my habits and exercising. However, more than any thing, I pay close attention to my body.  I don't want to look sick or be unnoticeable.  I love the fullness in my face and I don't want to lose that.  I would really like for my curvy cuties to chime in and tell me what you think.  For more information on this topic and to add your opinion, click the link http://www.phatgirlfresh.com/#!health-and-beauty/c1pz

BEAUTIFUL YOU

It really saddens me that some of the most beautiful people second guess themselves because of others.  Just because others see you differently doesn't make you any less fabulous.  Society is set up to make us feel as though we have to be perfect but no one is.  No one will ever be blessed enough to be excepted fully by everyone.  No matter who you please, in spite of who embraces your talent and beauty, there will be someone who has an issue.  Since this is our reality, why not cut the middle men(women) out and opt to just be happy on your own terms.  Except the reality of your existence and be as fabulous as God intended for you to be.

I know that people see me as this strong, confident, beautiful intelligent woman(well that what I have been told).  However, I have not always been this way.  I went through a period in which I thought I was ugly, fat and unworthy of any thing great.  I felt as though I had no purpose. I literally had to learn to love myself.  I had to come to terms with the reality of my existence.  I had to stand face to face with myself.  I know that sounds easy but it is not.  In no way is it easy to dissect yourself, but that is exactly what I did.  I opened myself up and extracted both the good and the bad and then analyzed it.  Some of the things that I thought were bad were good, and some of the things I thought were good were bad.  Of course the good needed no adjusting but the bad had to be reckoned with.  Why was I  mean?  Why was I a fighter?  Why was I depressed?  Why was I sad? What I came up with was probably the same thing many of you would come up with if you did the same.... It is not you that has made you second guess yourself, it is society.  

Society has made us believe so many lies and these lies ultimately tear us down.  You know what I mean..........  if you aren't a size 3 you are fat, and if you are fat you are worthless.  If you don't look a certain way, you are ugly or if you don't have certain material items you are irrelevant. However, as I said before, these are all lies!!!  You don't have to conform to be beautiful, all you have to do is BE.

Stop letting others make you feel like your not whatever it is that you know you are.  If you know that you are a beautiful, intelligent person, be that person.  Be bold about who you are and what you possess.
If you aren't proud, appreciative or in tune with who are, you can't live...... You just exist.  Life is so much happier when you live out loud.  Society my have its standards but when you say to the world; this is me, I make no apologies or excuses for who I am, I love that person that I see in the mirror and I am not going away, the world had two options. The first option is to see you for who you are and love you.  The second is remain ignorant and closed minded and respect you. 

So with all of that being said, in spite of your imperfections....... YOU BETTA WERK!!!  Stut as if you are a peacock!! Let the world know, I am here, I am beautiful and I refuse to be denied!!! 

GOODBYE AND HELLO

For those of you who know me on a personal level, you know that I have had a very hard year.  It has been extremely challenging and filled with tears. However, I think that this year in the midst of my storm, I learn somethings that I thought I already knew about myself.  I have always known that I was strong but I learned exactly how strong of a woman I am.  I know that a person's attitude and will can carry them a long way and that is what kept me most of the time.  I was determined to live and not die.  I was determined to enjoy the people that I love and I knew that God would heal my body and my mind.  Yes I said mind, because my mind was just as afflicted as my body.  I was afraid of what I was going through and afraid to speak on it because everyone expects me to be so strong.  I walked around the majority of this year wearing a mask, pretending to be happy and brave when I was sad and scared.  So yes, that had my mind all messed up!!!  I was depressed because at the time I was thinking about what the doctor's thought and not what God PROMISED!!!!  It is funny how the devil slid in and placed all that doubt in my head and sad how I let him.  

Aside from being sick, I had to battle with myself in regards to people, how I treat others, how they treat me, how they perseve me and a number of other things.  What I had to do was realize that there are times when it is alright to be selfish.  There is nothing wrong with looking out for self.  People that are in your life for a season will eventually have to go.  When a person is operating outside of what you believe in, it is OK to let them go.  If you find yourself in a situation where you are unhappy, it is fine to walk away.  I learned that there is no need to subject myself to drama and drama seeker's because that is not who I am.  So during the course of this year I have lost a lot of people not to death but to life and that is great.  It made me a better person and gave me more peace.  Do I hate them, am I mad at them....... NO!!!!  Do I love and care for them, would I be there if they needed me................ YES!!!  However, I don't miss the drama that they brought to my life.  

 I can't say that the entire year was a bust because it wasn't.  I begin to write more and acquire an audience.  I started two businesses, and although they didn't get me in Forbes...... I did profit and gain a great deal of knowledge and experience.  I also learned more of what my purpose is and I begin to travel that path.  I would like to think that I have helped my fellow man along the way as well.  My faith has been renewed and I am stronger than ever.  However, all that sickness, sadness, loniness, doubt, drama and everything else negative.................. I WILL NOT MISS!!!  AND ON THAT NOTE, GOODBYE 2011

HELLO 2012!!!!!!! (YES I AM SCREAMING) I AM VERY PLEASED TO GREET YOU WITH A HEALTH BODY, A CLEAR MIND AND A SMILE THAT WILL BLIND THE SUN.  ALL THAT SWAG, BOLDNESS AND ATITTUDE THAT I LOST IN 2011 IS BACK!!!  I AM READY TO TAKE EVERYTHING THAT I HAVE TO THE NEXT LEVEL; MY BUSINESSES, MY FRIENDS, MY FAMILY, MY EDUCATION.............. EVERYTHING!!!  IF YOU ARE APART OF MY CIRCLE, READ MY BLOGS OR A FRIEND OF A FRIEND, YOU BETTER GET READY BECAUSE WE ARE HEADED TO THE TOP.  I DON'T WANT TO GO BY MYSELF, I WANT YOU TO GO TOO.  THE WORLD IS GONNA GET TIRED OF ME AND MY MOUTH AND GOD IS GONNA GET TIRED OF ME PRAYING AND PRAISING.  I REFUSE TO START A NEW YEAR WITH THAT OLD MESS, NOT MAUI!!!  MY DREAMS STRECTH SO FAR BEYOND WHAT YOU KNOW OF ME AND I PLAN TO GO FOR ALL OF THEM.  NO I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT LOSING WEIGHT AND ALL THOSE OTHER RESOLUTIONS.  I AM TALKING LIFE AND LIVING IT TO THE FULLEST.  I AM TALKING CAPITOLIZING ON EVERY OPPORTUNITY AND CREATING THE ONE'S THAT AREN'T ALREADY THERE.  I WILL BE GIVING THE WORLD MY OUTLOOK AND IMPUT VIA THE "MAUILOGUES".  I WILL BE EMPOWERING, ENCOURAGING AND INFORMING MY PHAT GIRLS WITH MY "BIGMAMA'S" BLOG.  IF YOU NEED A MAKE-UP ARTIST OR A SKIN CONSULTATION, I CAN GET YOU "ALL DOLLED UP".  ALTHOUGH I ALREADY INTRODUCED THE TEE SHIRT LINE FOR MY PHAT GIRLS AND I APPRECIATED THE PURCHASES,  I WILL BE OFFICIALLY LAUNCHING THE SHIRTS AND INTRODUCING YOU TO "BIGMAMA'S CLOTHING"!!!  SO GET READY FREDDY!!!!!!!!!!!!  FOR ALL THOSE DOUBTER'S AND NAYSAYER'S, KEEP THE NEGATIVITY TO YOURSELF AND STAY OUT OF MY WAY.  YOU CAN EITHER ROLL WITH ME OR GET ROLLED OVER BECAUSE YOU CAN'T STOP A BIG WHEEL(WILL) FOR ROLLING.......... AND MY WILL(WHEEL) IS BIG

YOU ROCK!!

I have been sitting on this blog for a while for personal reasons, but I am officially ready to unleash.  I know that many people do a lot of bandwagon jumping when different events take place, and I did not want to be one of those people.  However, I have such a strong message attached to the movement.  Now that some of the hype has died down....I am ready to break my silence.  Well let me start by saying that the entire Black Girls Rock movement is great!!!  I think that it is important to continuously applaud and encourage the efforts of our young girls.  However there are so many others who ROCK and who need the same push.  People need to learn to love themselves and identify with what makes them ROCK.  I say it all the time, God created us all with purpose, with that purpose and hard work, we can all ROCK .  I know that all of us aren't bold and out going.  Some of us need that extra push or encouragement, and some are halted by fear.  These things are the reasons I am writing this blog.  


I just think that the Black Girls Rock! movement is amazing and very needed.  Our youth need to know how important and appreciated they are.  Honestly, I think that this holds true for so many people, not just black girls.     White girlS, Black boys, White boys, Men and Women of all races, ages and sizes.  We all need to be encouraged and made to feel important at some point.  There are a lot of people who work hard to make others smile, to make sure that things go and happen the way that they should and all they want is a pat on the back.  Although we all should be aware of our gifts and abilities, some people need to be reminded that they ROCK!!!


Let me tell you, God created us all with purpose and we have been given gift(s).  However, it is up to you to use what you are given.  You may not always have a fan club or cheerleaders, it is up to you to know that you ROCK!!  In order for you to know that you ROCK, you have to identify with why you ROCK!!!  Your positive attitude, your loving nature, your beauty, your compassion for others, all of these things and many others are why you ROCK!!!  What it is important to know is that your situation nor your circumstances make you and they can't break you unless you allow them to.  Many of you know exactly why you ROCK but you allow fear to paralyze you.  As long as you step into the waters, the fear of drowning no longer controls you no matter what happens from that point on.  The devil and all the naysayers want you to let fear control you.  They want you to believe that you don't ROCK.  They want you to give up on God's promise, but you got to keep it moving!!!


YOU ROCK!!!  AND I CAN'T STRESS IT ENOUGH!!  TAP INTO YOU GREATNESS AND MAKE YOUR MEANINGFUL IMPACT ON THE WORLD......................  WE ARE WAITING!!! AND IF NO ONE ELSE TELLS YOU.........................YOU ROCK!!!!!

P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY!!!!!!!!!

ALRIGHT , ALRIGHT, ALRIIIGHT(in my Kevin Hart's daddy voice)!!!!!!!!!!  It is another P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY!!!!!  SO GET CRUNK WIT IT, GET LOOSE WIT IT......... BUT PLEASE DON'T LET BRUCE BRUCE HIT IT!!!  I KNOW THAT THE WEEK HAS BEEN HECTIC AS USUAL, BUT YOU MADE IT WITH YOUR  BEAUTIFUL SELVES.  AND YOU KNOW THAT IT IS TIME TO UNWIND, KICK BACK AND ENJOY.  I KNOW THAT YOU HAVE KIDS, FAMILY AND FRIENDS THAT REQUIRE YOUR ATTENTION BUT TAKE A LITTLE TIME FOR YOU.  IF YOU AREN'T HAPPY AND ON TOP OF YOUR GAME, YOU ARE NO GOOD FOR ANYONE ELSE.  OR AS I LIKE TO SAY, "IF MAMA AINT HAPPY, AINT NOBODY HAPPY".  THE FIRST LAW OF NATURE IS SELF AND IT IS ALRIGHT TO BE SELFISH SOME TIMES.  IT MAY NOT BE ANYTHING MAJOR, BUT DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF, SOMETHING THAT BRINGS YOU HAPPINESS.

CHILD LET ME TELL, I LEARNED A LONG TIME AGO TO CELEBRATE ME!!!  IF I DON'T LOVE ME.... NOBODY ELSE WILL.  YOU GOT TO TREAT YOURSELF OR YOU WILL CHEAT YOURSELF, AND YOU CAN QUOTE ME ON THAT ONE.  THE WAY YOU TREAT YOURSELF, IS THE WAY THAT OTHERS WILL TREAT YOU.  IF A MAN KNOWS THAT YOU ARE HIGH MAINTENANCE AND YOU SPOIL YOURSELF, HE WILL FEEL COMPELLED TO DO THE SAME.  NO FOOL BRINGS WHITE ZINFANDEL TO A CRISTAL PARTY.  I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT MONETARY ONLY, I AM TALKING ABOUT TIME, BACK RUBS, FOOT MESSAGES, BUBBLE BATHS AND SO ON. 

SO LADIES PLEASE, WHAT EVER YOU DO OR DON'T DO, MAKE SURE YOU STEAL A PERSONAL MOMENT FOR YOURSELF.  SPORT THAT PRETTY LITTLE SMILE THAT THE WORLD NEEDS TO SEE.  AND BE BLESSED BEYOND MEASURE!!!

WHO ARE YOU

It took me a long time to come to terms with the person that I am.  I thought that so many irrelevant things defined who I was, things like clothing, other materialistic goods and even other people.  I was so wrapped up in what others thought until I privately begin to embrace the person that people said I was. I was wasting so much time embracing a person that didn't exist instead of loving who this body housed.  In the midst of all this, I learned something very valuable, there is a big difference between embracing something and loving it.  When you embrace something, you take hold of it.  You hold it close to you, for whatever reason but that doesn't mean you love it.  Now when you love something, you have profound feelings for it, you have the strongest form of affection for it.  You can embrace something and not love it, with ease but it is hard to love without embracing it.   When I was embracing the person others said I was, I was not at all loving the true me.  It took me going through life trials to begin to truly love and embrace the real me.  I literally looked in the mirror one day and asked myself, "WHO ARE YOU".  I then made a list of all of the characteristics that I possessed and begin to exhibit those things.  Yes I was talked, laughed at and lied on, hell I still am.  However, now that I know who I am............. I could care less!!!

So I ask you my full figured diva's, who are you?  Are you that fat insecure chick that is willing to settle?  Are you less of a woman because you have more to love?  Are you just a waste of a pretty face?  Are you some lazy heifer sitting around letting the world pass you by?  WHO ARE YOU?  I will tell you who you are, you are that person that lives within you.  That smart, intelligent, fun loving, kind, important person.  You are not those wide hips, big boobs and butt, but you should love them because they are a part of you.  Never allow others to define who you are because they are probably defining what they see instead of who you are.  Do you know how many people seem to be one thing but are really something totally different? I will tell, millions!!!   Looks are deceiving, so let your actions define you.  

P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY

WELL LADIES, AS IT WILL BE EVERY FRIDAY....... TODAY IS P.H.A.T(PRETTY HOT AND TEMPTING) FRIDAY!!!  NO SAD OR BAD NEWS.  NO DEEP THOUGHT PROVOKING TOPIC AND MOST OF ALL NO TEARJERKERS!!!  JUST HAPPINESS AND ENCOURAGING WORDS!!!!!!  


ON THIS P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY, I ENCOURAGE YOU ALL TO CELEBRATE YOU IN ALL OF YOUR SPLENDOR. CELEBRATE WHATEVER IT IS THAT MAKES YOU THE AMAZING PERSON YOU KNOW YOU ARE.  DO SOMETHING IN HONOR OF WHO YOU ARE, SOMETHING THAT BRINGS YOU JOY.  THERE IS A TIME FOR SELFISHNESS, DURING THAT TIME IT SHOULD BE ALL ABOUT YOU.  YOUR HAPPINESS IS REQUIRED, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE LOVED ONES WHO DEPEND ON YOU.  HAPPIER YOU ARE, THE MORE YOUR BEAUTY RADIATES.  I WANT YOU TO ALL KNOW THAT YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO BE AS BEAUTIFUL AS YOU DESIRE.  OUR TRUE BEAUTY HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH OUR PHYSICAL FEATURES BUT WHAT IS EMBEDDED IN US THAT RADIATES OUTWARD.  OUR TRUE BEAUTY IS REALLY WHAT DEFINES US AND ALLOW THE WORLD THE PLEASURE OF KNOWING WHO WE TRULY ARE.

WELCOME

HELLO TO ALL OF YOU.  I AM VERY EXCITED ABOUT THIS BLOG, BECAUSE IT IS NEAR AND DEAR TO MY HEART.  THIS IS A PLACE OF COMFORT, ENCOURAGEMENT AND HAPPINESS FOR ALL MY PLUS SIZED SISTERS/DIVA'S.  THE GOAL IS TO TOUCH ON ANY SUBJECTS THAT YOU DEEM NECESSARY.  I WILL BE PROVIDING YOU WITH MY EMAIL ADDRESS SO THAT YOU ARE ABLE TO CONTACT ME ON A MORE PERSONAL AND PRIVATE LEVEL.  I AM VERY BOLD, OUTSPOKEN AND HONEST BUT I KNOW THAT EVERY WOMEN IS NOT LIKE THAT, SO IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO TALK TO ME ABOUT SOMETHING AND TO WRITE ABOUT IT PRIVATELY, I WILL DO SO.  I REALLY WANT AS MUCH FEED BACK AS I CAN, SO PLEASE COMMENT!!!   I LOVE BEING A WOMAN, AND I ESPECIALLY LOVE BEING A PLUS SIZED WOMAN, BECAUSE IT REQUIRES EXTRA OF EVERYTHING!!!!  I WANT OTHER WOMEN LIKE ME TO KNOW THAT WE HAVE THE SAME BEAUTY AS ANY OTHER WOMAN AND ARE JUST AS VALUABLE.  


I WILL ALSO BE GIVING BEAUTY TIPS, SPOTLIGHTING COMPANIES AND SERVICES.  HOWEVER, ANY AND EVERYTHING WILL BE USED FOR THE UP BUILDING OF YOU.  NEVER FEEL AFRAID OR SHY ABOUT ADDRESSING ANY ISSUE, THAT IS WHAT WE ARE HERE FOR....................BIGMAMACLOTHING@GMAIL.COM