My Black History

I honor of black history month I want to start by giving you a little of my foundation. The origin of my strength, love and faith in God. 

The woman in the picture is Albertha Wheeler Mccoy (Mabert), born February 1, 1904. She was born and raised on an Indian reservation in Early County Georgia. Her mother a full blooded indian, her father a black man, Mabert and her siblings bore the resemblance of both parents ( soft long hair, smooth deep brown skin and piercing blueish gray eyes).  Albertha married John Mccoy(Grand daddy John)at a early age and started a family.  The Mccoy clan grew to 11 child but Mabert was a mother to many many more.

People who grew up around her often talked about her strength and wisdom.  They spoke of the love she had for others and God. I remember her telling me how she walked miles on Sunday to get kids for Sunday School and after church she would walk them all back home. People have spoke of how she always feed, clothed and housed people in need.

Some of my fondest memories were of Mabert and some of the greatest knowledge I have came from her. I remember sitting in the house watching The Young & Restless with her while the other kids played outside. I remember how she would nod off and I would say Mabert you sleep but she would wake up and tell me everything that happened.  I remember the conversation we had when she found out I was pregnant with Zayed and how she said she wouldn't get to see him be born but to "bare down and have that baby." 

She was so strong, she never complained of illness or pain. On her final day, she just peacefully transitioned to heaven after telling us that she was going to have breakfast with her husband( who died before I was born). Listening to her morning spirituals as she did every morning, within 3 minutes of her making that statement, she was gone.

Of all the children, grand children and even great grand children that had come from the Mccoy clan, none ever had the pleasure of sharing the same birth month as Mabert. However, after her death in September, I gave birth to that baby that she said she wouldn't be alive to see on February 9th.  While she may not have been there physically I remembered exactly what she told me, "bare down and have that baby" and that is what is did..... HAPPY BIRTHDAY MABERT, REST IN PEACE AND LOVE! #PHATGIRLFRESH

Phat Girl Friday......... Elise Micomyiza

Well as you all know today is Phat Girl Friday.  Although I have had a trying week and a busy day, here I am.  I have to tell you, initially I was going to write and feature someone else but evidently God had other plans.  Now I don’t claim to be the Holiest person but I know and love God.  I know that he has shown me far more favor then I deserve.  Last night was no different.  I received an email from a young lady named Elise Micomyiza, and after reading the message, I was in tears but empowered all at the same time.  I wasn't sure what she wanted me to do with it or why she had chosen to share it with me but I am grateful.  I have long known exactly what my assignment from God was, and every day, my desire is to operate in that.  Which is why is automatically knew that Elise’s story needed to be shared.  There are people (not just plus size women) who need to read this.  Trials, triumph, courage and love for other; all things that make Elise Micomyiza……… PHAT GIRL FRESH

My name is Elise Micomyiza born 24 may 1990 in Africa in a small country Rwanda which is in central Africa and known for the 1994 genocide. My dad was a bus driver and owned garage and my mother was a veterinary and a business woman.  I lost my parents/brother and sister during the 1994 war Hutus against Tutsi...I was the only survivor in my family.  After the genocide I lived with my aunt who adopted several children that had the same situation...  Growing up wasn't easy after the war, I had to do everything by myself I never fitted any were even though I was adopted I felt lonely. But I always had a smile and time to make other laugh and be happy. As young I was interested a lot in everything that was entertaining.  at home when my adoptive parents weren't there I was there entertaining visitors making them laugh I always had jokes, my mom always called me to entertain people; neighbors knew me, everyone thought I deserved to work on TV. When I went in high school we moved in Madagascar a big island very beautiful lovely and nice people, 2009 I decided that I had to come here in Canada and fulfill my dreams, I never really knew what I wanted I only knew it would be entertaining whatever I would do...I worked for Rogers in Montreal then moved to Ottawa where I was working for a Canadian designer Nelly.  When I started to work for her I figured that I did want to work in fashion industry I had tried casting for L’Oreal but didn't work out until I applied for the weight is over and I was lucky enough to model at mambo restaurant in Ontario when they organized a fashion show 2013 and met Stephanie the designer of sexy plus who invited me to Toronto a very nice lady down to earth and I was amazed working with her.  So then I decided to register at Richard Robinson where am attending haute couture 3 year diploma to become a designer....in the future am looking forward to become a famous model/designer/actress...I believe life is short, there is a reason I survived and lost my family and the reason why am still here, so I don't live to regret I live to make a difference and to encourage everyone around the world that there is always a reason for everything.  To view more pictures of  Elise Micomyiza click the following link, http://www.phatgirlfresh.com/#!fashionably-fresh/cnec

TAMAR TALKS CONFIDENCE.

Last Tuesday was big for RnB music, with the release of Raheem Devaughn, John Legend, Jahiem and Tamar Braxton new album.  We all know that artist have to work the circuit to increase album sales which is what the baby Braxton girl has been doing.  She recently had a real talk session with some of Necole Bitchie's followers and ended up in tears.  During the QnA session one of the ladies asked Tamar about having confidence and her past abusive relationship.  Tamar fought back tears as she admitted that she hasn't always been the confident diva that we see today.  She stated that she used attitude and fake confidence to hide the fact that she didn't love and believe in herself due to her abuse.  Despite all of her trials, Tamar rose above that situation to become the women that we see today.  However, she says, "that girl still lives" in her and she "work hard daily to keep her hidden."

I posted this to let other women know that confidence starts with you.  It doesn't matter how smart, pretty or successful you are.  Being confident starts with you!!!!! #phatgirlfresh

NOT A DAY GOES BY.......

Seven years ago today, I lost my best friend/sister, Shannette Perkins Elijah.  She was an amazing person and a loving mother.  We had a friendship that began when we were 9 years old and will last eternally.  Our friendship is a great example of many of the things that I speak on all the time.  We didn't always agree on things and there were times when we would argue and/or get mad with one another.  However, we never loved one another any less.  There were periods when we were too busy to talk to each other on a daily basis but when we did it was as if nothing had changed.  There was never a time that she needed me that I didn't come to her aid and vice versa.  We loved one another and no matter what happened we knew that and we always let that guide our friendship.  We had so much fun together, there was never a dull moment and there was never any jealousy or competition.  We never felt indifferent about friends that we obtained along the way because we knew that nothing would ever come between what she and I shared and even in death, this holds true.  I have other friends whom I love with all my heart and consider my sisters but she remains in her special place in my heart.  It is so amazing to me that after 7 years, it still hasn't got any easier.  TO CONTINUE READING, CLICK THE FOLLOWING LINK.  http://www.phatgirlfresh.com/#!fresh-life/cute

SCRAPPY AND SHAY, TOGETHER AGAIN?

Lil Scrappy and Erica Dixon appear to be over for now, Again..... I guess Momma Dee’s wish was granted.  The royal throne is back in the order that the queen so desires.   Lil’ Scrappy attended Uptown Magazine’s Project13 event in Atlanta, on Monday without his fiancee.  However,Shay was seen on his arm.  I just don't understand what is Shay's logic, if she has any.  If a man leaves me and proposes to his baby mama(at the same damn time), he can go straight to hell.  Not to mention the fact that he did it on television.  I don't know what would make Shay so desperate for Scrappy?  I don't know if she wants a man or the man(well the Prince) but whatever the answer is, she is making a fool of herself.  FOR THE REST OF THIS STORY, CLICK THE FOLLOWING LINK.... http://www.phatgirlfresh.com/#!celebrity-news/c6lh

A SEED SOWER......

I know that today is Wellness Wednesday. And I am supposed to be talking health, and in a sense I am. Because the things and people that bring you joy...... add to your life in abundance.  Which is why I have to take this time to give recognition to a person who never ask for any. A person who gives unselfishly and expects nothing in return, my God sister Ms. Danisha Morris.

I learned a long time ago that the seeds people sow into your life don't always have to be monetary.  Some times the seeds planted in your head and you heart bloom into flowers that are more beautiful than those planted in your pocket.  However, Nisha is one who plants seeds of all kinds.  She is a positive, goal, oriented woman who continues to excel at everything she does because God grace is with her.  I am honored to call her my sister and blessed to have her in my life. She has feed my soul more than she may ever know and more than I could ever express and for that I am forever grateful.

I want to extend the warmest, most heart felt HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MS. DANISHA MORRIS!!!! YOU ARE PROOF THAT BEING P.H.A.T GIRL FRESH IS NOT ABOUT THE SIZE OF YOUR WAIST BUT THE SIZE OF YOUR HEART.  You are bold, beautiful, confident and God-fearing.  There are so many woman feeding off your confidence. So many young girls who need to know your story. You are proof that hard work and determination will take you as far as you allow it and that the sky really is the limit. You are a fountain in which the waters of greatness flow. So again I say happy birthday and I love you.

LOVE DOESN'T HURT (Domestic Violence)!!!

No matter how much we grow as people, there is one issue that always sneaks back into our homes.  That issue is domestic violence.  Domestic violence was traditional defined as violence or physical abuse directed toward your spouse or domestic partner; usually violence by men against women.  However, men can and are victims of domestic violence as well. The fact is although love is not perfect it damn sure doesn't hurt and no one has the right to physically or verbally abuse another.

Sadly enough domestic violence is again in the news following the murder/suicide in which, Jovan Belcher  a linebacker for the Kansas City Chiefs, shot and killed his girlfriend and later himself.  The situation is very sad because no one has answers and now there is a three month old baby who has neither a mother nor a father.  No one knows exactly what happened that led to the shooting other than the fact that the couple argued following Kasandra Perkins, 22 attending a concert the following night.  Police were contacted about the incident by Belcher's own mother, who reportedly stated that her daughter had been shot by her boyfriend.  As so many people mourn and ask why, we must face the reality that this will not be the last time this type of tragedy strikes. 

For many years, domestic violence was like that "pink elephant" in the room, every one knew it existed but no one acknowledged it.  However, with so many celebrities breaking their silence, and cases like O.J Simpson and Floyd Mayweather, domestic violence has a voice.  I remember growing up and watching my Fat Daddy(my grandma's long time boyfriend) beat on my Nannie(my grandmother).  I know that as a child behavior is learned but I never felt that it was right.  Although I loved and respected him(and still do), I never ever thought that what he did to her and us was right.  The reason I said us is because at the time me and my cousin were living with my Nannie and it really hurt and traumatized us.  What people tend to forget about domestic violence is there are indirect victims too.  Those of us who witness the abuse with no control over the situation, bare just as many scares as the ones who are being physically and verbally abused.  As a girl, I had the same question that I have for victims now; why don't you leave?  I was so bothered by the fact that my Nannie did not have the strength to just leave.  However, once her children got wind of it, she did leave but she allowed him back into our lives and it wasn't long before he was beating her again.  This is the sad truth of so many victims.

I am sure their are a number of issue that lead a person to become violent and enraged. Many times the anger comes from a build up of stress and tension. The actions may even be out of the person's character, from all the accounts police have received, Belcher was a good guy but something made him snap. I am sure that there is a place in many of the aggressor's head that can justify all of their actions. It is an illness and must be treated as such. Just as drug abuse has to be treated, so does physical and emotional abuse.  I know that many times victims feel obligated to stay in the situation due to love and loyalty.  However, the truth is you staying is only making the situation worse.  When domestic violence is present the entire family unit is injured and the entire family unit needs to be healed.  This healing doesn't mean that the victim has to remain or return to the situation, just that they need to identify with signs and why it was allowed so it never happens again.  Your children need to know that this isn't acceptable behavior and that it isn't their fault.  Can you imagine how Belcher's mother has to feel? To have witnessed her son commit such a crime and then learn that he had taken his own life. She lost two people whom she loved dearly and is left to raise a grandchild who unknowingly bares the scares of domestic violence. Now that is a wound that will never heal...

No relationship is perfect and love is a roller coaster ride but it shouldn't leave you battered and bruised.  Never underestimate where a person's anger can take them and where it can leave you.  If they hit you once with no repercussions......... I WILL HAPPEN AGAIN!!   if they threaten to kill you, believe them and act quickly.  Their are many victims that could have saved their own lives if they had just taken heed to the signs.

THE SOUL OF SISTERS

I was watching Oprah's Life Classes with Iyanla Vanzant this past Sunday and I was moved.  They were examining the relationships that women have with one another. They were shining light on the reason women are so hard on one another.  I must say that I was immediately able to identy with every thing that they were speaking one.  Now I would be a liar(which I am not), if I told you that I had not been the aggressor in many situations in my life time.  I have gossiped, I have been mean, I have competed and even been petty.  I have also been the victim. Which really tied into the fact that, "EVERYTHING WE PUT OUT INTO THE UNIVERSE AT SOME POINT RETURNS TO US".  My question as an adult woman who sees her flaws, faults and knows better is, how do we stop the cycle? How do we begin to respect one another as women? 

Like I said before, I have been both victim and aggressor in these type situations.  Honestly I only in recent years begin to see the error of my ways.  I have always been this strong willed person.  Even when I fell victim to mean girls.  During middle/high school, I was not at all the most popular.  I was physically more mature than other girls my age.  Although I had nice clothes, my mom didn't allow us to wear many of the things other girls wore.  Yeah, I got to go places and do things but there were major restrictions.  All of these things made me a target.  However, honestly I never cared. I was comfortable with who I was and I never aspired to be anyone different. 

I guess because my mother instilled certain things in my, I was always this strong uncompromising person.  It wasn't until I was an adult that I learned that comprise isn't all bad.  My mom always taught me to, "talk two time talk", meaning if you say it once be prepared to say it again.  Now I have lived by that all my life but the reality is, even though you say it again, you can still be wrong.  I have always known I was pretty but I have down talked or competed with others.  Maybe I did it because I wasnt happy with my body.  Maybe it was because I wanted something that the next sister had. Maybe, I didn't feel she deserved what she had.  Whatever the reason...... I did it.  I learned at a young age, that you dont have to be friends with everyone you come in contact with but, did I have to be mean?  The answer is no, but many times I was.  Not thinking about my sister's feelings, only knowing that I wasnt willing to compromise what I felt. 

I know that I give my mother credit for much  of my character, but in no way am I speaking negatively of the roots and wings she gave me.  What I am saying is I used the strength, knowledge and life tools she equipped me with in the wrong way on occasions.  I guess that is what she meant when she said, "I tell you things so you will have a good start up but eventually you will use that to come into your own".  While coming into my own I guess I begin to conform to societies norm. 

It has become a fact that women don't work well together.  Anytime there is a group of women, the likeliness that drama, gossiping and competition will arise is great.  I think that it is sad that women are unable to have the freedom to connect the way men do.  Yeah men have issues with one another but not to the extent that women do.  Why are the souls of sisters so heavy?  Why do we feel the need to rip one another apart?  Why can't we all be great, and appreciate the greatness in one another? 

BEAUTIFUL YOU

It really saddens me that some of the most beautiful people second guess themselves because of others.  Just because others see you differently doesn't make you any less fabulous.  Society is set up to make us feel as though we have to be perfect but no one is.  No one will ever be blessed enough to be excepted fully by everyone.  No matter who you please, in spite of who embraces your talent and beauty, there will be someone who has an issue.  Since this is our reality, why not cut the middle men(women) out and opt to just be happy on your own terms.  Except the reality of your existence and be as fabulous as God intended for you to be.

I know that people see me as this strong, confident, beautiful intelligent woman(well that what I have been told).  However, I have not always been this way.  I went through a period in which I thought I was ugly, fat and unworthy of any thing great.  I felt as though I had no purpose. I literally had to learn to love myself.  I had to come to terms with the reality of my existence.  I had to stand face to face with myself.  I know that sounds easy but it is not.  In no way is it easy to dissect yourself, but that is exactly what I did.  I opened myself up and extracted both the good and the bad and then analyzed it.  Some of the things that I thought were bad were good, and some of the things I thought were good were bad.  Of course the good needed no adjusting but the bad had to be reckoned with.  Why was I  mean?  Why was I a fighter?  Why was I depressed?  Why was I sad? What I came up with was probably the same thing many of you would come up with if you did the same.... It is not you that has made you second guess yourself, it is society.  

Society has made us believe so many lies and these lies ultimately tear us down.  You know what I mean..........  if you aren't a size 3 you are fat, and if you are fat you are worthless.  If you don't look a certain way, you are ugly or if you don't have certain material items you are irrelevant. However, as I said before, these are all lies!!!  You don't have to conform to be beautiful, all you have to do is BE.

Stop letting others make you feel like your not whatever it is that you know you are.  If you know that you are a beautiful, intelligent person, be that person.  Be bold about who you are and what you possess.
If you aren't proud, appreciative or in tune with who are, you can't live...... You just exist.  Life is so much happier when you live out loud.  Society my have its standards but when you say to the world; this is me, I make no apologies or excuses for who I am, I love that person that I see in the mirror and I am not going away, the world had two options. The first option is to see you for who you are and love you.  The second is remain ignorant and closed minded and respect you. 

So with all of that being said, in spite of your imperfections....... YOU BETTA WERK!!!  Stut as if you are a peacock!! Let the world know, I am here, I am beautiful and I refuse to be denied!!! 

Letter to Keke Dillard

Hello Keke, I am writing this in response to your facebook post about the plus size community(https://www.facebook.com/kekedillard?ref=t).  I really appreciate you going there and putting that information out there.  I have been doing my own research and I can say that everything that you stated in your post is factual.  I am a blogger and I am also in the process of opening a boutique in my area, both aimed at plus size woman.  Although I write because it is one of my passions along with fashion, it doesn't always seem promising. My Big-Mama blog is all about and for us(PHAT GIRLS) many times I feel like I am my audience.  My reasoning is that if I am able to write something that will reach, help or inspire one of my plus size sister's, I will be happy and the same goes with fashion.  I think that the problem is that most of the PHAT GIRLS (affectionately used to identify plus size women, by me) have allowed society and it's views get the best of them.  The sad part is that we are hurting ourselves and our kind to please the minority.................

Society has painted this picture of greed and filth and associated it with being plus sized.  We are thought to not have self control. It is said that we are less beautiful than other woman, and are less deserving of love and a good mate. It is thought that we should have to settle for the scraps when it comes to romance.   We are not at all healthy and have no value of life.  We (society) tell our children not to be fat as though it is the same as being a thief or a murderer.  If I had a dollar for every time I heard, "yes she is pretty, but she is fat" or, "you have a pretty face", I would be rich.  I guess in hearing these things so much, many woman have begin to believe them instead of the truth.  The truth is, bad health is housed in the bodies of both fat and slim woman.  A person's beauty has nothing to do with their size or  face for that matter, it is about who you are on the inside.  Men (real men) are not effected by a woman's size as much as he is her character, personality and intelligence.    We are just as great as any other woman, but each individual PHAT GIRL HAS TO BELIEVE THAT!!!!

Until PHAT GIRLS learn to except the realities of their existence, we will always be on the low end of the totem pole.  The fact is plus size businesses aren't successful because so many PHAT GIRLS are ashamed of who they are.  In a way I think that many PHAT GIRLS feel that supporting "BIG" business means you are OK with being the person that society says we are, which is not true.  We are not that ugly picture at all!!!!  However, the only way to prove them wrong is to embrace who you truly are and not who they have falsely made you out to be.  It is OK to have a desire to be healthy(if you are unhealthy) or to lose weight but no matter what your size is love you and identify with what lies beneath.

Keke, for the past year, I have been trying to start a PHAT GIRL MOVEMENT, because the need is so great.  I am a big bold woman, and it pains me to know that so many of my PHAT GIRLS are afraid to declare the same thing.  I just don't know what give them the right to not be BOLD, FIERCE AND PROUD OF EVERY OUNCE OF THEMSELVES.  I come in contact with so many woman who are waiting to lose weight so that they can get that new hair style, dress up and even go out and have fun.  I try to tell them your size isn't restricting you, you lack of love and confidence for yourself is.  Most PHAT GIRLS are their own worst enemy. I mean really, if you were bold and didn't believe in yourself, do you think the investor would have?  I think not!!!!  It is our duty as bold, beautiful intelligent PHAT GIRLS, to stand up and be heard.  We have to continue to encourage and empower our sisters to love themselves and make no apologies for who they are.

GOODBYE AND HELLO

For those of you who know me on a personal level, you know that I have had a very hard year.  It has been extremely challenging and filled with tears. However, I think that this year in the midst of my storm, I learn somethings that I thought I already knew about myself.  I have always known that I was strong but I learned exactly how strong of a woman I am.  I know that a person's attitude and will can carry them a long way and that is what kept me most of the time.  I was determined to live and not die.  I was determined to enjoy the people that I love and I knew that God would heal my body and my mind.  Yes I said mind, because my mind was just as afflicted as my body.  I was afraid of what I was going through and afraid to speak on it because everyone expects me to be so strong.  I walked around the majority of this year wearing a mask, pretending to be happy and brave when I was sad and scared.  So yes, that had my mind all messed up!!!  I was depressed because at the time I was thinking about what the doctor's thought and not what God PROMISED!!!!  It is funny how the devil slid in and placed all that doubt in my head and sad how I let him.  

Aside from being sick, I had to battle with myself in regards to people, how I treat others, how they treat me, how they perseve me and a number of other things.  What I had to do was realize that there are times when it is alright to be selfish.  There is nothing wrong with looking out for self.  People that are in your life for a season will eventually have to go.  When a person is operating outside of what you believe in, it is OK to let them go.  If you find yourself in a situation where you are unhappy, it is fine to walk away.  I learned that there is no need to subject myself to drama and drama seeker's because that is not who I am.  So during the course of this year I have lost a lot of people not to death but to life and that is great.  It made me a better person and gave me more peace.  Do I hate them, am I mad at them....... NO!!!!  Do I love and care for them, would I be there if they needed me................ YES!!!  However, I don't miss the drama that they brought to my life.  

 I can't say that the entire year was a bust because it wasn't.  I begin to write more and acquire an audience.  I started two businesses, and although they didn't get me in Forbes...... I did profit and gain a great deal of knowledge and experience.  I also learned more of what my purpose is and I begin to travel that path.  I would like to think that I have helped my fellow man along the way as well.  My faith has been renewed and I am stronger than ever.  However, all that sickness, sadness, loniness, doubt, drama and everything else negative.................. I WILL NOT MISS!!!  AND ON THAT NOTE, GOODBYE 2011

HELLO 2012!!!!!!! (YES I AM SCREAMING) I AM VERY PLEASED TO GREET YOU WITH A HEALTH BODY, A CLEAR MIND AND A SMILE THAT WILL BLIND THE SUN.  ALL THAT SWAG, BOLDNESS AND ATITTUDE THAT I LOST IN 2011 IS BACK!!!  I AM READY TO TAKE EVERYTHING THAT I HAVE TO THE NEXT LEVEL; MY BUSINESSES, MY FRIENDS, MY FAMILY, MY EDUCATION.............. EVERYTHING!!!  IF YOU ARE APART OF MY CIRCLE, READ MY BLOGS OR A FRIEND OF A FRIEND, YOU BETTER GET READY BECAUSE WE ARE HEADED TO THE TOP.  I DON'T WANT TO GO BY MYSELF, I WANT YOU TO GO TOO.  THE WORLD IS GONNA GET TIRED OF ME AND MY MOUTH AND GOD IS GONNA GET TIRED OF ME PRAYING AND PRAISING.  I REFUSE TO START A NEW YEAR WITH THAT OLD MESS, NOT MAUI!!!  MY DREAMS STRECTH SO FAR BEYOND WHAT YOU KNOW OF ME AND I PLAN TO GO FOR ALL OF THEM.  NO I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT LOSING WEIGHT AND ALL THOSE OTHER RESOLUTIONS.  I AM TALKING LIFE AND LIVING IT TO THE FULLEST.  I AM TALKING CAPITOLIZING ON EVERY OPPORTUNITY AND CREATING THE ONE'S THAT AREN'T ALREADY THERE.  I WILL BE GIVING THE WORLD MY OUTLOOK AND IMPUT VIA THE "MAUILOGUES".  I WILL BE EMPOWERING, ENCOURAGING AND INFORMING MY PHAT GIRLS WITH MY "BIGMAMA'S" BLOG.  IF YOU NEED A MAKE-UP ARTIST OR A SKIN CONSULTATION, I CAN GET YOU "ALL DOLLED UP".  ALTHOUGH I ALREADY INTRODUCED THE TEE SHIRT LINE FOR MY PHAT GIRLS AND I APPRECIATED THE PURCHASES,  I WILL BE OFFICIALLY LAUNCHING THE SHIRTS AND INTRODUCING YOU TO "BIGMAMA'S CLOTHING"!!!  SO GET READY FREDDY!!!!!!!!!!!!  FOR ALL THOSE DOUBTER'S AND NAYSAYER'S, KEEP THE NEGATIVITY TO YOURSELF AND STAY OUT OF MY WAY.  YOU CAN EITHER ROLL WITH ME OR GET ROLLED OVER BECAUSE YOU CAN'T STOP A BIG WHEEL(WILL) FOR ROLLING.......... AND MY WILL(WHEEL) IS BIG

WHO ARE YOU

It took me a long time to come to terms with the person that I am.  I thought that so many irrelevant things defined who I was, things like clothing, other materialistic goods and even other people.  I was so wrapped up in what others thought until I privately begin to embrace the person that people said I was. I was wasting so much time embracing a person that didn't exist instead of loving who this body housed.  In the midst of all this, I learned something very valuable, there is a big difference between embracing something and loving it.  When you embrace something, you take hold of it.  You hold it close to you, for whatever reason but that doesn't mean you love it.  Now when you love something, you have profound feelings for it, you have the strongest form of affection for it.  You can embrace something and not love it, with ease but it is hard to love without embracing it.   When I was embracing the person others said I was, I was not at all loving the true me.  It took me going through life trials to begin to truly love and embrace the real me.  I literally looked in the mirror one day and asked myself, "WHO ARE YOU".  I then made a list of all of the characteristics that I possessed and begin to exhibit those things.  Yes I was talked, laughed at and lied on, hell I still am.  However, now that I know who I am............. I could care less!!!

So I ask you my full figured diva's, who are you?  Are you that fat insecure chick that is willing to settle?  Are you less of a woman because you have more to love?  Are you just a waste of a pretty face?  Are you some lazy heifer sitting around letting the world pass you by?  WHO ARE YOU?  I will tell you who you are, you are that person that lives within you.  That smart, intelligent, fun loving, kind, important person.  You are not those wide hips, big boobs and butt, but you should love them because they are a part of you.  Never allow others to define who you are because they are probably defining what they see instead of who you are.  Do you know how many people seem to be one thing but are really something totally different? I will tell, millions!!!   Looks are deceiving, so let your actions define you.  

P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY

WELL LADIES, AS IT WILL BE EVERY FRIDAY....... TODAY IS P.H.A.T(PRETTY HOT AND TEMPTING) FRIDAY!!!  NO SAD OR BAD NEWS.  NO DEEP THOUGHT PROVOKING TOPIC AND MOST OF ALL NO TEARJERKERS!!!  JUST HAPPINESS AND ENCOURAGING WORDS!!!!!!  


ON THIS P.H.A.T GIRL FRIDAY, I ENCOURAGE YOU ALL TO CELEBRATE YOU IN ALL OF YOUR SPLENDOR. CELEBRATE WHATEVER IT IS THAT MAKES YOU THE AMAZING PERSON YOU KNOW YOU ARE.  DO SOMETHING IN HONOR OF WHO YOU ARE, SOMETHING THAT BRINGS YOU JOY.  THERE IS A TIME FOR SELFISHNESS, DURING THAT TIME IT SHOULD BE ALL ABOUT YOU.  YOUR HAPPINESS IS REQUIRED, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE LOVED ONES WHO DEPEND ON YOU.  HAPPIER YOU ARE, THE MORE YOUR BEAUTY RADIATES.  I WANT YOU TO ALL KNOW THAT YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO BE AS BEAUTIFUL AS YOU DESIRE.  OUR TRUE BEAUTY HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH OUR PHYSICAL FEATURES BUT WHAT IS EMBEDDED IN US THAT RADIATES OUTWARD.  OUR TRUE BEAUTY IS REALLY WHAT DEFINES US AND ALLOW THE WORLD THE PLEASURE OF KNOWING WHO WE TRULY ARE.

WELCOME

HELLO TO ALL OF YOU.  I AM VERY EXCITED ABOUT THIS BLOG, BECAUSE IT IS NEAR AND DEAR TO MY HEART.  THIS IS A PLACE OF COMFORT, ENCOURAGEMENT AND HAPPINESS FOR ALL MY PLUS SIZED SISTERS/DIVA'S.  THE GOAL IS TO TOUCH ON ANY SUBJECTS THAT YOU DEEM NECESSARY.  I WILL BE PROVIDING YOU WITH MY EMAIL ADDRESS SO THAT YOU ARE ABLE TO CONTACT ME ON A MORE PERSONAL AND PRIVATE LEVEL.  I AM VERY BOLD, OUTSPOKEN AND HONEST BUT I KNOW THAT EVERY WOMEN IS NOT LIKE THAT, SO IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO TALK TO ME ABOUT SOMETHING AND TO WRITE ABOUT IT PRIVATELY, I WILL DO SO.  I REALLY WANT AS MUCH FEED BACK AS I CAN, SO PLEASE COMMENT!!!   I LOVE BEING A WOMAN, AND I ESPECIALLY LOVE BEING A PLUS SIZED WOMAN, BECAUSE IT REQUIRES EXTRA OF EVERYTHING!!!!  I WANT OTHER WOMEN LIKE ME TO KNOW THAT WE HAVE THE SAME BEAUTY AS ANY OTHER WOMAN AND ARE JUST AS VALUABLE.  


I WILL ALSO BE GIVING BEAUTY TIPS, SPOTLIGHTING COMPANIES AND SERVICES.  HOWEVER, ANY AND EVERYTHING WILL BE USED FOR THE UP BUILDING OF YOU.  NEVER FEEL AFRAID OR SHY ABOUT ADDRESSING ANY ISSUE, THAT IS WHAT WE ARE HERE FOR....................BIGMAMACLOTHING@GMAIL.COM